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Your sharing is incredible.  I've had the best/worst days since the weekend.  The
distinctions show up, alternately, as completely inaccessible or bullshit or some
ideal or ...who knows?  Meanwhile, what I'm mostly present to is being totally
unnerved, rug-pulled-out and upset.  I know there were at least a few people who
dropped out of the course just before our fifth weekend - I can actually get how
that would seem like a viable option in the face of this ...what?...conversation.

I took on the empowerment stand in my relationship with Vip, and within three
days, I was completely convinced that I should, in self-defense, quit having
anything to do with him.  I need a 24-hour coach with absolute wisdom; any
applicants?

Meanwhile, the background is that there is infinite possibility in the field we
can designate Partnership; it's just that, well, the inhabitants are (don't say
it) human beings.  I'm in the process of reconciling that for myself.  My own
humanity is only now starting to become acceptable to me.  Hmmmmmm.

As Ray says, With great love,
Robyn

InaRuth@aol.com wrote:

> Ina here:
>
> I've been ruminating over the thought "I am empowered by everything you say
> and do."  It's a toughie.  Kathy's email got me going on it last night and
> today while I was driving to customers etc.  I promise you there are a lot of
> things that people have been doing and saying since Sunday that don't look
> like empowerment to me.  So now, I say, either the quote is bull or there's
> somewhere else to look.
>
> So here's where I'm looking.  Everyone in my life is a teacher here to teach
> me my lessons in this life.  Now if this Princess Brat had her way, all my
> lessons would be sweet and gentle like a summer's ocean breeze.
> Unfortunately, it's not necessarily the way the universe works.  And not
> necessarily the way to have your lessons learned.
>
> So what if everything you do or say empowers me is literally a stand.  Then
> "hard" lessons, like abuse, or pain, also empowers me.  Why?  Because I said
> so.  It's like learning to embrace what's present.  The example that came to
> mind today was pain.  Either emotional or physical, but the one I'll talk
> about is physical.  I don't like pain.  It ain't my preference.  But after the
> car accident I was in chronic pain for 7 years.  And you learn to live with
> it, like learning to live with "being cute" or brown eyes or the ilk.  And in
> the learning to live with it (whatever "it" happens to be), you grow.  And
> you're empowered.
>
> Physical pain is something we avoid like the plague.  And I suspect we all
> avoid anything that looks like any kind of pain.  Like rejection.  Especially
> rejection.  We fail to communicate to avoid rejection, and of course the irony
> is that the act of avoiding communication usually causes more pain than the
> original communication would havae caused.
>
> So there may be lessons which come out of pain.  And you are empowered (and
> maybe don't like it!)  But you are empowered -  if you surrender to your
> lessons - if you take on your lessons like a practice.  If it's in front of
> me, then it's there for me to learn.  The longer I resist the lesson, the
> longer it persists.  Once I surrender to the lesson, learn it, then the
> appearance of similar incidents don't carry the same whomp of the original.  I
> am not as devastated or upset by the presence of the affect of the lesson.
> It's simply "Oh, there it is again.  Interesting.  What more is there to
> learn?"
>
> So I'm looking at empowerment more from the vantage point of a zen master in
> the process of mastery.  Standing in the sacred witness, what we see is what's
> there to learn, to master.  For me, it's been physical pain and the
> debilitation of being handicapped.  And also relationship - but that's another
> story.
>
> I'm uncertain if this has communicated what I want to say.  It's a circuitous
> route at best (sorry Steve).  What I'm trying to do is take learnings and
> apply them to the Partnership Exploration.
>
> So, I guess, the empowerment by everything you say and do lives in the sacred
> witness observing life and then magically turning the lessons, the "what you
> say and do" into empowerment.
>
> love,
> i
> PS
> What language do I speak?  Sharing and caring.
> For what?  The Adventure life is
> To whom:  Fellow Adventurers
>
> My accountability:  I am accountable for bringing light to the shadows and
> illuminating them. I am accountable for love.




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