Subject: Re: I am empowered by everything you say and do.I am empowered by From: bstuhlmu.infoscan@medimedia.com Date: Tue, 21 Jul 1998 10:00:26 -0400

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I've been away for 4 days and missed signing on. When I opened these this
morning I was amazed to see how much the conversation has grown!

Two things have been recurring for me since the last partnership weekend:

1. There is no community, no partnership if I'm not speaking their
existence. In the past I see, I've thought of them as existing and a place
for me to get to. Now it occurs as a pure creation in the moment. And only
in the moment of speaking them so. And since they don't exist my job is to
bring the conversation into perpetuation.

2. As far as I can tell, everything I have to say has been said before. At
first that was upsetting, given that I consider myself to be facile with
language and a creative being. Now it's just moved to noticing how
omnipresent that circumstance is. Mostly I'm left with a stillness,
wondering what speaking something that has never been said before, looks
like as a daily practice. The best I can get to is something like the
conversations that I used to love in Calvin & Hobbs. Then that also shows
up as something that has been said before.

So if my speaking is creating community / partnership, and if I'm committed
to creating a transformation of the future of my grandchildren, what will I
speak?

I wonder.

I speak community wondering. I speak to others who wonder and search for a
future. I speak for the possibility magnificent human being. I'm alkso
noticing it's OK to hang out in not knowing how to speak what hasn't been
spoken. I'm not even sure that will occur once before weekend six. It's
being present to the opportunity that is so useful.






>
>        "Within a community of coaches we can generate from the
> Partnership field conversations for extraordinary relationship for your
> (and VIP's) empowerment and be empowered by that."
>
>        "Are you a request for coaching from a Partnership community of
> coaches for extraordinary relationship?"

Yes, Ray, I am.

>        " I offer to be part of that community of coaches."

I accept your offer.  What an extraordinary engagement to open.

>        "Each voice has something unique to contribute to this
> conversation. Each of us have Category 2 (what is laying around to be
> said) conversations to say about and for relationship. As a community we
> will invent new conversations for extraordinary relationship."
>

Unimaginable!

>         "Are there any others here that will also offer to be part of
> that community?"
>
> Imagine the possible impact on all of us via this community.

> This is definitely in the realm of what can't be said in THIS
> artist/loner's reality.

Side note:  This email group has made a huge difference for me just in the
few days I've been in it.  I am completely engaged in the gift of the
Partnership exploration.

Thank you all.With great love,Robyn

>
>
> ____________
> Ray Fulcher
> rfulcher@us.lhsgroup.com
> 770-280-3460
>
>         ----------
>         From:  robyn jamison [SMTP:robynart@wans.net]
>         Sent:  Friday, July 17, 1998 1:06 AM
>         Subject:  Re: I am empowered by everything you say and do.I am
> empowered by everything you say
>
>         Your sharing is incredible.  I've had the best/worst days since
> the weekend.  The
>         distinctions show up, alternately, as completely inaccessible or
> bullshit or some
>         ideal or ...who knows?  Meanwhile, what I'm mostly present to is
> being totally
>         unnerved, rug-pulled-out and upset.  I know there were at least
> a few people who
>         dropped out of the course just before our fifth weekend - I can
> actually get how
>         that would seem like a viable option in the face of this
> ...what?...conversation.
>
>         I took on the empowerment stand in my relationship with Vip, and
> within three
>         days, I was completely convinced that I should, in self-defense,
> quit having
>         anything to do with him.  I need a 24-hour coach with absolute
> wisdom; any
>         applicants?
>
>         Meanwhile, the background is that there is infinite possibility
> in the field we
>         can designate Partnership; it's just that, well, the inhabitants
> are (don't say
>         it) human beings.  I'm in the process of reconciling that for
> myself.  My own
>         humanity is only now starting to become acceptable to me.
> Hmmmmmm.
>
>         As Ray says, With great love,
>         Robyn
>
>         InaRuth@aol.com wrote:
>
>         > Ina here:
>         >
>         > I've been ruminating over the thought "I am empowered by
> everything you say
>         > and do."  It's a toughie.  Kathy's email got me going on it
> last night and
>         > today while I was driving to customers etc.  I promise you
> there are a lot of
>         > things that people have been doing and saying since Sunday
> that don't look
>         > like empowerment to me.  So now, I say, either the quote is
> bull or there's
>         > somewhere else to look.
>         >
>         > So here's where I'm looking.  Everyone in my life is a teacher
> here to teach
>         > me my lessons in this life.  Now if this Princess Brat had her
> way, all my
>         > lessons would be sweet and gentle like a summer's ocean
> breeze.
>         > Unfortunately, it's not necessarily the way the universe
> works.  And not
>         > necessarily the way to have your lessons learned.
>         >
>         > So what if everything you do or say empowers me is literally a
> stand.  Then
>         > "hard" lessons, like abuse, or pain, also empowers me.  Why?
> Because I said
>         > so.  It's like learning to embrace what's present.  The
> example that came to
>         > mind today was pain.  Either emotional or physical, but the
> one I'll talk
>         > about is physical.  I don't like pain.  It ain't my
> preference.  But after the
>         > car accident I was in chronic pain for 7 years.  And you learn
> to live with
>         > it, like learning to live with "being cute" or brown eyes or
> the ilk.  And in
>         > the learning to live with it (whatever "it" happens to be),
> you grow.  And
>         > you're empowered.
>         >
>         > Physical pain is something we avoid like the plague.  And I
> suspect we all
>         > avoid anything that looks like any kind of pain.  Like
> rejection.  Especially
>         > rejection.  We fail to communicate to avoid rejection, and of
> course the irony
>         > is that the act of avoiding communication usually causes more
> pain than the
>         > original communication would havae caused.
>         >
>         > So there may be lessons which come out of pain.  And you are
> empowered (and
>         > maybe don't like it!)  But you are empowered -  if you
> surrender to your
>         > lessons - if you take on your lessons like a practice.  If
> it's in front of
>         > me, then it's there for me to learn.  The longer I resist the
> lesson, the
>         > longer it persists.  Once I surrender to the lesson, learn it,
> then the
>         > appearance of similar incidents don't carry the same whomp of
> the original.  I
>         > am not as devastated or upset by the presence of the affect of
> the lesson.
>         > It's simply "Oh, there it is again.  Interesting.  What more
> is there to
>         > learn?"
>         >
>         > So I'm looking at empowerment more from the vantage point of a
> zen master in
>         > the process of mastery.  Standing in the sacred witness, what
> we see is what's
>         > there to learn, to master.  For me, it's been physical pain
> and the
>         > debilitation of being handicapped.  And also relationship -
> but that's another
>         > story.
>         >
>         > I'm uncertain if this has communicated what I want to say.
> It's a circuitous
>         > route at best (sorry Steve).  What I'm trying to do is take
> learnings and
>         > apply them to the Partnership Exploration.
>         >
>         > So, I guess, the empowerment by everything you say and do
> lives in the sacred
>         > witness observing life and then magically turning the lessons,
> the "what you
>         > say and do" into empowerment.
>         >
>         > love,
>         > i
>         > PS
>         > What language do I speak?  Sharing and caring.
>         > For what?  The Adventure life is
>         > To whom:  Fellow Adventurers
>         >
>         > My accountability:  I am accountable for bringing light to the
> shadows and
>         > illuminating them. I am accountable for love.
>













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