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Steve -

I just want to say that, having observed you and Renee a bit together and
listened to Renee talk about your relationship, I appreciate you as
relationship-inventors.

Love,
Robyn

Steve Goldberg wrote:

> Good stuff Larry, thanks for bringing some humor to the conversation.
>
> Here's an observation.  Often Renee will say something to me and I'll have
> the immediate reaction that she's belittling me, and then respond
> accordingly.  Actually, for me,  "responding accordingly" is to withdraw.
> ASK HER WHAT SHE MEANS !
>
> Usually it's not what I think.  The limitations of my previous beliefs are
> challanged, and why not?  I have declared myself into
> a life of growth and development, and facing unknowns is a part of that,
> like putting my reactions aside in order to see what there is to learn.
>
> And what, do I really think my wife is out to belittle me? NO. NO. NO.
> Although I do react that way sometimes. So find out what's really there.  I
> picked her because she has keen observation and assessment.  She picked me
> because she thought I was brilliant.  We still think that of one another.
> She wants to be heard.  I want to be trusted.  She wants me to provide.  I
> want her to entertain me.  We both want to be honored.  Our marriage is a
> renewable contract, the first phase was 5 years, now we're in a 10-year
> agreement.  There's a finiteness to this I can get my arms around.
> "Forever" is a little vague.
>
> We play and explore together well and joyously.  Our attentions are
> different and complimentary, so we can cover a lot of ground.  I appreciate
> her sorcery as she appreciates mine.  Life is good and unpredictable.
>
> Steve
>
> That's all I have to say for now.





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