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	Rex Ballard - Director of Electronic Distribution
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> Wow, Just thinking... Paying $500 a month, over 19 more years, for one
> child...  My Ex hit LOTTO!  Worth over $114,000.00  (This is if I don't
> increase my salary!)

I mine is $1200/month (cash and benefits) for over 20 years.  Over 
$250,000.  I also carry $500,000 in life insurance - payable to her.

Add the taxes that go to pay for her disability and her husband's (about 
$1000/month for 5 years) - $60,000 thus far.

This doesn't include the $40,000 she inherited  (and squandered) when her 
father died.

She lives in Colorado Springs and pays $350/month for a 3 bedroom 2500 
square foot house in a nice suburb.  I pay $650 for a 300 square foot 
efficiency in Jersey City NJ.

> Now I'd like to see a detailed spending itemized bill.

If my ex did that both she and her husband would end up in Jail!
(My day-care is $300/month "earned income" to her husband).

> Oh, BTW... If I offended any women on the group, I did not mean to.

I realize there are those who were forced into making choices by their 
husbands.  Their husbands beat them, cheated on them, and then left them 
for dead with a stack of unpaid bills and no income.

There are those men who were forced into making certain choices by their 
wives.  Their wives used fraud, blackmail, extortion, and kidnapping to 
get what they wanted, and expected them to give them 50% of their 
after-tax income, leaving them with 20% of their gross income to live on.

> I firmly believe in equal rights in every aspect.

I believe people should have the right to make choices and be responsible 
for those choices.  They chose to get married and I get to be responsible 
for their choice.

> (Especially in Custody proceedings!)

There should be no secrets in custody proceedings.  The state should trot 
out everything it knows about both parents (complaints, DWIs, arrests, 
convictions, community service...)  Each parent should fill out a form 
(with the help of a councellor or legal advisor) describing why the other 
parent would be a clear and present threat, describing why they would be 
a good parent.  Each side would have to make it's case for child-support, 
and could make it's case for mitigating circumstances.


From rballard@cnj.digex.net Thu Feb 22 05:51:26 1996
Newsgroups: alt.child-support