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On Thu, 29 Sep 1994, Scott gibson wrote:

> In article <36b27o$bmb@cnj.digex.net>, rballard@cnj.digex.net (Rex
> Ballard) wrote:
 
> > This tall dark and geourgous TV Bitch is has been itching to tease, 
> > torment, and please some insatiable little slut.  My past victims were 
> > bisexual or curious and their lady friends taught me some interesting new 
> > twists.
 
> >  Hey debbie,
>       I am a CD/TV curious I would be your willing slave in return for the
> ability to share some of your clothes while you teach me and I build up my
> own wardrobe. I am in LA where are you?

I must not have made myself clear.  I am looking for females.  I know 
what it is to start coming out, so I'll share a little of what I 
discovered works for me.

I am in New Jersey.  You may want to check out "The Haite" in San
Francisco.  If your into TV/Guys, there are are some great clubs in S.F.
where the "Girls"  parade with pride.  There are two Leather Clubs that
have some very cute "Ladies" with a real class act.  I'm told there are
some great clubs in Hollywood as well. 

Some hints for building up your wardrobe.  Start by taking all of your 
measurements and comparing them against a Sears catalogue.  I am a size 
16 skirt/pant and a size 18-20 blouse.  I can usually make a size 14 dress.

Start by shopping at thrift shops and only buy items where you can read 
the sizes.  Buy 3 blouses and 3 skirts.  Generally men have much better 
legs and tushes than women and you want to show that off if it's appropriate.
If you are thinking of going public, the Halloween season is a great time 
to start.  Got to lots of costume parties and try different outfits at 
each party.  I went to my first as a French maid in a modified size 24 
maid's dress (I've lost a LOT of weight since then).

Don't show up at work in the dress, even as a costume.  If you bring it 
to the office, you declare yourself as a target.  My employer couldn't 
tell whether I was just excercising bad judgement or I was trying to set 
myself up as a test case for sexual harassment.  By the time I saw a 
lawyer and a tharapist to confirm that I wasn't just paranoid, I also 
knew I didn't want to sue that employer.  Within a year after going 
public, I resigned.  I ended up with a much better job in an industry 
dominated by women.  I eventually moved east to enjoy the freedom and 
diversity of N.Y.C. especially Greenwich Village and Soho.  It was a 
little disappointing to be honest.  I'm told that Atlanta is the big 
TV/TS capital these days (the southern climate is much more conducive to 
dresses and skirts).  There is supposed to be an IFGE (International 
federation for Gender Education) convention in Atlanta in early October.

How old are you?  What are your goals for coming out?  What support 
groups have you investigated or joined?  Are you only a dresser or are 
you also transgendered?  I'm a gender bender (transgendered) myself.  
I've been this way since I was at least 1 year old, maybe even before.
I actually remember preferring to play with girls while living in a place 
that I moved away from in by the time I was 18 months old.  I remember 
that it took some effort from my grandmother to get the girls in my new 
neighborhood to accept me as "nottaboy".

When I was 6, I moved again, and the parents of the girls in the new 
neighborhood had no appreciation for a boy who played with Barbie Dolls 
and wore their daughter's dresses.  I was isolated for about 9 years 
until boy-shy girls and gay boys started to accept me as "nottaboy".  I 
eventually went to college with 900 women, 20 gay men, and 5 heterosexual 
men.  I was a virgin for the 4 years.

I got engaged in 1980 and came out to my new house-mate.  Eventually, she 
met someone younger with more hair below the ears and ended our 8 
year marriage to marry him.  We had two children.

I 1990, I came out in a big way and met several interested people.  I was 
engaged twice, but careers took us in different directions.  Today, I am 
single again, but I am taking appropriate actions to change that.

If you are interested in taking appropriate actions to find the situation 
you seek, write me again with more of what you are looking to create for 
yourself.  Maybe I can help you find the TV/TS/Woman/? of your dreams.

	Debbie




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